stuka f
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hello all,
yeah, life ...sucks,....is a bitch you can fill in the blank as you want...
The reason of my absence here is that I lost my wife, today , exactly a year ago....
It was and still is, hard!
At first I didn't get a chance to grief. We where buisy selling the house and all other problems that at to be solved kept me buisy. Day and night!
The house holds like 50 years of collecting, not just militaria, but all kind of stuff.
When the buyer asked me when the house would be empty, I told him I would need two years...
The buyer are a multinational, so that didn't go easy as well...Many traps in theyr offers, I needed to overcom.
I am 62 and officialy only pensioned at my 65, but du to the passing of my wife I could choose to get my pension right away at the rate of my wife's pension who was a state employee and has a far better pension then I would get.
And that is what I did. Again the paperwork etc....
And we where into antiques in general, so stopping the buisiness took again time and paperwork...
I will be here in Belgium untill the last day of the month, and will then move to France, where we baught a old house.
Don't know if the house in Belgium will be cleared by then, but I think I got the essentials.... stocked in a warehouse around the corner. Not sure I will be able to get there ever again, but knowing it is still there is more important to me. Moving it would take at least 3 containers, I think....
It is snowing here right now and that is the reason I found time to write this, because the van is full and ready to go to the warehouse, again...
One year ago, my wife didn't feel to well and stayed at home from work, as she needed a doctors proof to justify here absence, we planned to go to the doctor at 19.00h. If she didn't had need the doctors proof, she wouldn't have gone to a doctor...
The doctor sended us immediatly to the nearest hospital and as we didn't forsee that, I asked here around 21.30h if it was allright I went to the house to close everything properly, to let the dog out and then return, she said yes and give me the jewels she was wearing. As it seemed she would have to stay overnight.
At home I got a telephone call, that she passed away at 22.15h...
Just like that, out of the blue...
We didn't prepared that!!
The locker at the bank, was here responsability. I know she told me the secret combination , but I forgot.
And all those other things she generally did in that complex world we are living in, became my responsability all of the suden.
She allowed me to stay the little boy I allways wanted to be, but getting "adult" from one day to the other, was a nightmare.
All I wanted was to get in a mobile home and drive away, a dream be both had, once the house was sold and she get to retire earlyer....
But I am still here and did what she (probably) wanted me to do...
yeah, life ...sucks,....is a bitch you can fill in the blank as you want...
The reason of my absence here is that I lost my wife, today , exactly a year ago....
It was and still is, hard!
At first I didn't get a chance to grief. We where buisy selling the house and all other problems that at to be solved kept me buisy. Day and night!
The house holds like 50 years of collecting, not just militaria, but all kind of stuff.
When the buyer asked me when the house would be empty, I told him I would need two years...
The buyer are a multinational, so that didn't go easy as well...Many traps in theyr offers, I needed to overcom.
I am 62 and officialy only pensioned at my 65, but du to the passing of my wife I could choose to get my pension right away at the rate of my wife's pension who was a state employee and has a far better pension then I would get.
And that is what I did. Again the paperwork etc....
And we where into antiques in general, so stopping the buisiness took again time and paperwork...
I will be here in Belgium untill the last day of the month, and will then move to France, where we baught a old house.
Don't know if the house in Belgium will be cleared by then, but I think I got the essentials.... stocked in a warehouse around the corner. Not sure I will be able to get there ever again, but knowing it is still there is more important to me. Moving it would take at least 3 containers, I think....
It is snowing here right now and that is the reason I found time to write this, because the van is full and ready to go to the warehouse, again...
One year ago, my wife didn't feel to well and stayed at home from work, as she needed a doctors proof to justify here absence, we planned to go to the doctor at 19.00h. If she didn't had need the doctors proof, she wouldn't have gone to a doctor...
The doctor sended us immediatly to the nearest hospital and as we didn't forsee that, I asked here around 21.30h if it was allright I went to the house to close everything properly, to let the dog out and then return, she said yes and give me the jewels she was wearing. As it seemed she would have to stay overnight.
At home I got a telephone call, that she passed away at 22.15h...
Just like that, out of the blue...
We didn't prepared that!!
The locker at the bank, was here responsability. I know she told me the secret combination , but I forgot.
And all those other things she generally did in that complex world we are living in, became my responsability all of the suden.
She allowed me to stay the little boy I allways wanted to be, but getting "adult" from one day to the other, was a nightmare.
All I wanted was to get in a mobile home and drive away, a dream be both had, once the house was sold and she get to retire earlyer....
But I am still here and did what she (probably) wanted me to do...
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